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Guest Blogger: Welcome to the Universe, Sarah Haykel!
Suzie Bichovsky-Thomas • Jul 13, 2014
Do you know Sarah? I met Sarah Haykel when I was searching for a professional Life Coach. I was intentionally looking for someone who had strength in body awareness. Through working with Sarah, I learned to trust my intuition with myself as much as I trust it in interacting with others. That gift was priceless and I am incredibly honored to have her voice in my universe. Enjoy!
The Most Important Question an Empath Can Ask Herself
At home in your physical body is the key.
How do you feel in your body right now?
What sensations do you notice as you sit here and read this article?
Is there an opening in your chest, a deepness in your jawline, a frivolity in your pelvis?
Is there a sadness that is waiting for its time to be felt, to be expressed?
Is there a joy so vibrant you want to jump up and down and scream it from the rooftops, who cares what your neighbors think?
Bringing your awareness to your body and how it feels in the moment can be a tool of self-awareness and even greater, self-empowerment.
As a very sensitive person, some call an “empath,” I’ve realized that I pick up on a lot other people’s energy, emotions, thoughts, states of being, and at times, when I’m unaware, take them on as my own. I can act out, feel sad, get angry, judge myself and others, feel jealous, want to scream. But why, I ask myself? And more importantly, whose energy is this?
That last question is one of the most important I’ve used over the past couple of years to free myself from the binds of feeling and taking on other people’s “stuff” and energy. I know the word “energy” used to be pretty “woo woo,” but now it’s become a mainstream term to describe this feeling we get when we’re aware of what’s happening inside our bodies and around our physical bodies in life.
Let me clarify one main thing: it’s not that I don’t have any of my own stuff.
I surely do. This question: “Whose energy is this?” allows me to see and understand what is
mine to deal with and what isn’t mine, or more importantly, what is someone else’s part to play in what I’m feeling. This question gives me the necessary room and space to inquire within, when noticing the sensations of my body, and get clarity on what’s mine to deal with, if any of what I’m sensing is
mine to deal with (a powerful distinction indeed). I can also get clarity on whose
energy it is that I’m feeling in my body or around me.
Sometimes I notice when I ask myself, “Whose energy is this?” and a name pops up into the center of my chest (where a lot of my “inner guidance voice” speaks from), I feel an instantaneous lightness, like “Ah, that’s whose it is.” I don’t feel angry or judgment towards this person, I just feel clear, and the part of the energy that’s another person’s or part of the collective energy of many humans, leaves my energetic “field,” which I would call my internal body and the space around my body.
My main goal in life is to feel good, to feel amazing
in fact. So when I feel energy or emotions in my body or around my body that don’t feel good, that’s a sign to me that I am out of balance within myself or something around me is out of balance or alignment. This is when I start to inquire, when I get that uncomfortable or disconcerting feeling that something isn’t quite right.
I have to be honest, at times I feel scared to know how much of the uncomfortable energy, emotions or thoughts I’m experiencing are mine because I don’t want to be “wrong,” “bad,” or a part of an interaction or energy that is detracting from joy in life. This is when I must draw up my own sense of self-compassion, self-love, self-forgiveness and honor for myself and where I’m at on this journey called life.
At the same time, this awareness also allows me to be more compassionate, loving, and forgiving towards others and honor their journey in this life as well. Plus, it is one of the most humbling and freeing feelings to take responsibility for my part to play in a funky situation. It is also equally as liberating to free any energy or emotions that are not mine so others can own their parts to play in these situations.
Whose energy is this?
A powerful question that can free you both in taking responsibility for your part to play and releasing any energy, thoughts, and emotions that are not yours to deal with, allowing others to be responsible for themselves, their thoughts, emotions, and actions in their own lives.
Freedom. I guess that’s one of my other main desires in life! Free to Be All of Me!
How about you?
What is one way you can start using this question: “Whose energy is this?”
to free yourself to be all of you and add more joy and juice to life?
to receive Sarah’s Free to Be eBook that’s coming out this summer! It’s free
and will guide you through an important 5 step process so you can be Free to Be!
Sarah Haykel, aka Salsa Sarah, has launched The Sensual Body Movement for women to reclaim their sexuality, embrace their divine femininity, and express their sensuality from an empowered, intentional, clear and conscious place through dance and life coaching.
As a trained Latin, W. African, hip-hop, and break-dancer over the past 14+ years, and with her own style of freestyle and improvisational sacred dance, Sarah uses her expertise to bring you deeper into your own sense of empowerment inside your body.
As a certified professional Life Coach, Sarah works with one on one client’s and groups through Body Centered Awareness. The body is a tool for providing information, support and guidance to bring you into greater alignment and harmony within yourself and all of life.
Live a life empowered and juicy from the inside out. Join Sarah in The Sensual Body Movement by going to sarahhaykel.com
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